Wednesday, July 8, 2015
I recently pulled out an old box in the garage that has been in storage way too long. It is a chess set and board that my parents made me over 25 years ago. Mom hand painted the ceramic pieces and Dad made the chess board. It seemed like every time we moved I had good intentions to pull it out and display it. However, there always seem to be things standing in the way, either there was no room in the apartment, too many kids running around, or just didn’t fit with the décor of the house at the time.
Last night my wife and I found a place for it in the living room, where everybody that comes in the house can see it. I’m so excited for the opportunity to talk about it, and share the story. However, as I looked around I saw my Bible sitting on the kitchen table under by datebook, phone, and keys. I realized that I was more excited about telling people about my Chess board and pieces than I was about sharing the awesome message contained within the Word of God.
I guess the question today for me and everybody else is simple, what is it that you are excited to talk about. Is it the chess board on the bookshelves, the picture on the wall, the new phone you just got, or maybe the new app you bought. I wonder what God would think is the most important thing for us to talk about. I would guess (or really I know) it is simple … HE WANTS US TO SHARE ABOUT HIM, SO THAT OUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY CAN SPEND ETERNITY IN HEAVEN WITH HIM AND US.
It is time that the church gets out of the business of being a puppet of the state. As a minister I believe that if the state wants to issue marriage license for the purpose of tax status, social security, benefits, and etc., then they should be the ones’ held accountable before God.
My proposal is simple …. When a couple goes to the Court House to get their marriage license and signs all the documentation in front of the person behind the counter and swears it all to be true, they are legally married in the states eyes. Then if the individual wants religious ceremonies they should come to the church or other religious institution for the Blessing of Marriage.
I compare this to my responsibility as minister of doing funerals of church member. I do not represent the state in saying that the person is dead. My challenge is to support and encourage the family through their time of grief. The Blessing of Marriage ceremony would be the same thing. I am encouraging the family and couple in their time of celebration, with the couple being legally married by the government. However, the church is Blessing the Marriages they approve. If ministers want to bless same-sex marriages, then they like the government, will be held accountable.
Thursday, June 18, 2015
I started this blog post about three weeks ago, prior to the events that recently occurred in Charleston, South Carolina where a lone white male attends a church prayer meeting of a Black congregation, kills nine. I will wait patiently for the investigation to hear what was said as he stood to his feet and with Prejudice, Malice, and Hatred began to shoot. There is no doubt this is the worst kind of Prejudice and the worst crime when one kills out of hat for the one’s skin color, religion, or even sexual orientation, which shows that we really haven’t moved beyond the story of Cain and Able over the past 6,000 years.
Ironically, we these events and we scream, cry, and demand justice. However, prejudice behavior is going on around us every day.
Before we begin let’s define the word Prejudice from the dictionary …
” 1) An unfavorable opinion or feeling formed beforehand or without knowledge, thought, or reason. 2) Any preconceived opinion or feeling, either favorable or unfavorable. 3) an unreasonable feelings, opinions, or attitudes, especially of a hostile nature, regarding an ethnic, racial, social, or religious group.”
I’m amazed today how that we throw this word “Prejudice” around, and accuse others of being prejudice. The conservatives accuse the liberals and vice versa, whites of blacks, rich of the poor, and the list will be a mile long if we continue. We allow experience, perception, and fear to dictate how we respond to individuals that look different, have a different belief system, different religion, or simply a different skin color.
We allow the events of our personal history or an attack or even a perceived attack by a group of individuals of a different ethnic group years ago, either to us personally or someone we know sets the stage for us to be prejudice against an individual or the group throughout our lives. We can be prejudiced of an individual due to their faith, because not of something the individual has done to us but because of something some else of the same faith or religious group has done. I have even begun to notice prejudice response within our own community. I recently spoke with an individual that stated conservative black Politian’s where not worthy of respect because they don’t really support the cause of Black America. An individual was recently accused of having homophobia, because she didn’t support gay marriage.
I personally grew up with prejudice tenses; I think we all have some. Throughout my teens my dad was a retired Air Force Sergeant, and had gone to work for General Motor. It was often hard to watch things happen like individuals with fewer skills are get promoted over this man that had so many skills. It was hard to accept the two list system of the 70’s where two minorities where promoted within the local police and fire department, over others that had scored much higher on the test. Or as a student watching others getting accepted to college with the same grade point average as mine, and other things in the name of Affirmative Action. Now some would immediately say he isn’t prejudice, he is a racist. However, the reality is very far from the truth, I accept and love that scripture verse found in the Holman Christian Standard Bible version that reads: There is no Jew or Greek, slave or free, male or female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus.
How do we take America and the world back to being able to accept the writing of the Apostle Paul and make prejudice or racism a distant cry in America? I think that there are four major, however, simple steps to accomplish this goal.
1) We need to quite attempting to rewrite history: Sadly, in my family legacy there are things I’m not proud of some of it so ancient that I’m not sure I know the whole story, and some more recent. Whatever the event or legacy that dosen’t define me. We talk about accountability. I’m only accountable for my words, actions, and opinions not what my grandfather said 50 years ago.
2) We tell the radical on all side TO SIT DOWN AND SHUT UP, this goes for the media, to actors/actress, religious extremist on all sides to. We learn to speak for ourselves, or feeling, beliefs, and desires. We don’t allow organization to define us; we share our heart, emotions, and feelings. We don’t allow extremist and activists to tell who to like or not like.
3) We quit demanding everybody believe what we believe. This includes allowing individuals to have their personal religious beliefs. Just because I don’t agree in your life style choices such as, gay marriage, and marijuana should be legal, polemic, or many other beliefs that individuals have. These don’t make me prejudice, my beliefs are based on a well thought beliefs based on my understanding of my Christian beliefs.
4) Time to sit down and have Breakfast, my best friend is Robert. Now let me explain Robert is an African American pastor here in Cincinnati that I have known for over 24 years. And it all started with having breakfast at a Perkins Restaurant all those years ago. Do we always agree? NO, do we always see things the same no. However, one thing is for certain we always talk about it.
When is prejudice going to be eradicated in America, to me it is very simple … When America is willing to sit down at the Breakfast table and talk about feeling, beliefs, and acceptance of others.
Or better yet, when we are ready to sit down at the Lord’s Table and pray, and have communion together. I learned a long time ago, I can’t be prejudice, angry or talking about someone if I’m praying for them and with them.
My heart breaks over the events in Charleston, S.C. I don’t attempt to understand the mind of the attacker, and I believe justice needs to be done. I believe the conversation has to begin, not with the extremist on both side, but at the breakfast table learning to know, love, and compare with each other.
Monday, May 25, 2015
Memorial Day is a day of remembering the fallen hero’s that have touched our lives. My father served in the United States Air Force from 1953 – 1973, and retired at the rank of Tech Sargent. He would then go on to work for General Motor for 25 years, and retire from there as well.
He would never have accepted the term hero, and in fact sadly he served during a time of our history where it was forgotten what military heroes were. The Vietnam War brought out the best in men as they served our country and the worse in reaction to the war. I remember as a kid watching the horror of war unfolding on T.V. nightly, I remember watching the protest on T.V. and even being in the store and watching men and women in uniform being disrespected by individuals and groups.
Sadly, thousands lost their lives in war after war defending our freedom. Whether we agree with the politics or not, it is essential and important that we stand side by side with our heroes. Dad is not here anymore, he has been promoted to the place in heaven with the real King. Dad wasn’t’ only my hero because of his service to our military, he was my hero because of his encouragement and support in my life.
I will always remember by hero TSgt Donald E. Allen, Sr.
Who is your hero?
Saturday, May 9, 2015
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Saturday, February 28, 2015
Getting over the delusion that our kids are immune from drugs at a Christian college and even our own church!
The delusional thinking by parents, pastors, and educators needs to stop, immediately. What is this delusional thinking I’m referring to? The drug and alcohol epidemic that is running ramped throughout the United States is somehow not affecting our young people and their friends. The attached link above shows us that even conservative, highly respected Christian colleges can and most often do have and drug and alcohol problem.
The difference between non-Christian Colleges and generally Christian colleges are the rules. However, in many kids’ minds, rules are meant to be BROKEN and alcohol and drugs are no exception.
The drug epidemic has evolved over the years and the goal of using drugs remains the same: to get high, buzzed, and feel good. However, the results in many cases are just the opposite as the students at the Wesleyan College have found out. The synthetic drug also known as MDMA is in high demand especially among College students. The drug is generally referred to as: “Ecstasy or, more recently, as Molly. It is a synthetic psychoactive drug that has similarities to both the stimulant amphetamine and the hallucinogen mescaline. It produces feelings of increased energy, euphoria, emotional warmth and empathy toward others, and distortions in sensory and time perception.”
As an Alcohol and Drug Counselor for over 23 years, I have worked with a number of MDMA users, and have found that the drug, despite the perception in the community, movies, and other settings has the same negative impact on individuals. When discussing drugs use I ask all my clients/patients the four same questions:
1. Has the drug had a negative impact on your finances? Include the money you spend for the product, the medical expenses for recovery, legal fees, etc.
2. Has the drug caused you legal issues? Have you been arrested, or narrowly escaped out the back door when the cop’s arrived?
3. Has the drug caused you problems with your family and friends? This could include not showing up for family or planned functions with friends because of using or recovering from a recent use. Family and friends continue to express concern about the use of alcohol or drugs.
4. Are you experiencing problems either physically or mentally? There is a lot of research that alcohol and drugs have a negative impact on the body. Depending on the drug, it could affect the heart, lungs, blood pressure, liver, kidneys, and every organ in the body in some way. There is also evidence that the alcohol and drugs have a major effect on the brain, the mood, depression, anxiety, cognitive function, perception, and the neurological development of individual.
Parents, pastors, educators, and student support groups, let’s not be like the ostrich, the big bird that sticks his head in the sand and believes that problems don’t exist. The reality is that the problem is “TOO REAL” and young people are getting hurt, sick, and dying!
While the student is told and chooses to believe the Ecstasy/Molly’s will help improve their party experience, others are told it will help them focus and study. Some are seeking a great buzz and others are seeking a sexual stimulant. Whatever the reason for using this drug the outcome is always destructive.
The following is a partial list of some of the major effects:
Sharp increase in body temperature
Good probability of liver, kidney, and heart failure
Increase motor activity
Increase heart rate
This drug is synthetic and frequently manufactured in abandoned warehouses, barns, and even bathtubs in your neighborhood. You don’t who made it, their degree of cleanliness, what ingredients were used, or what safety precautions they took. The only thing you know is it is DEADLY!
My challenge to parents, pastors, educators, and friends is to please stop ignoring the problem of addiction. Take the challenge to:
Learn what drugs the kids you know are using.
Get them help
Hold people accountable for their use
Hold the school accountable for providing education and treatment for addictions.
Wednesday, February 11, 2015
St. Valentine’s Day is a day of celebration throughout the United States and many other countries, as well as a part of the traditional worship of many denominations throughout the world today. Over the years I have read many accounts of who Saint Valentine was, what he accomplished, how he died as a martyr for his beliefs, and how we ended up with religious and secular holiday’s honoring him.
One those noted and recorded traditions is that in the 4th century A.D. Valentine was a Priest, that felt loving and healthy relationships where essentials to one’s wellbeing. Tradition talks of Priest Valentine preforming marriages for soldiers in the Roman Army that by decree of the Emperor Claudius where forbidden to marry. There is no record of such a degree. However, this has remained the focus of the story. He also performed weddings for the persecuted Christian throughout the region that where denied the right to marry in the church due to their beliefs. Sadly, the legends and myths of this man of God have overshadowed the truth and reality of who he was.
Today Valentine’s Day is a holiday that makes millions (if not billions) for businesses around the world from, cookies, candies, cards, teddy bears, and hundreds of other items. The fact there is word Saint in front of his name is lost, with most people not even realizing the importance of the religious connection of this day.
Maybe it is time we return to traditional roots of St. Valentine’s Day. As I read the legends, myths, and historical accounts I see three things that stand out to me about the man and this concept of love and his ministryHe had a compassion and love for the Lord he served, and encouraged others to share their love and faith about Christ not only with their loved ones, but with friends around the world.
- He had a strong sense of traditional marriage, to the point that if the legends are correct he would defy the very law of the land and preform traditional Christian weddings for Men and Women that government deemed inappropriate.
- He would stand upon the conviction of the scripture that marriage was between a man and women, and be willing to be persecuted and martyrd for his conviction.
- He would have disagreed with what St. Valentine’s Day has become the holiday of mega-money. However, he would have most likely been pleased that the tradition of expressing love and kindness for someone you love has continued throughout history. Of course he would tell us we should do that every day.